Recall my story of being ruthlessly fired in 1989 by my former employer, then receiving a cold-hearted letter from the CEO shortly thereafter. I’ve struggled mightily with forgiving that CEO over the years. I can’t honestly say I fully have. To this day, I’m sure he would dismiss the notion that he’d done anything wrong to me. Worse, were I to approach him, he’d likely reopen the wounds he inflicted 27 years ago and add some fresh ones.
If you, like me, need to forgive someone who’s hurt you deeply but believes they’ve done nothing wrong, then do just that. Forgive them. There are three practical steps you can take that may help.